Naptime Blog

I always saw a little of myself in Kate.  I am not always Mrs. Sunshine, and am the first to admit it.  I could never understand why Jon allowed himself to be spoken to in the manner that she did, and would never want my husband to allow himself to be treated that way by me, nor anyone else for that matter.  And he doesn’t.

Collectively, we have four children with a fifth on the way.  The oldest is my husband’s 18 year old son, and even though he doesn’t live with us, having a teenager in our family is stressful enough.  Add to that a seven year old “Princess” who thinks she is 17 years old (giving us TWO teenagers), twin babies approaching a year old who are trying to walk and talk and have begun to get into everything, and another baby on the way (who happens to at the moment be the most well behaved of our five children, but gives me heartburn and nausea and makes me very tired), and we have a circus!

I love my husband and my children with all my heart and soul.  I am tremendously blessed and would not want my life any other way.  But catch me after my daughter drops my perfume bottle all over the floor at the same time my one son sits on my other son (who has a stinky diaper that leaked through all over the toys) and is hysterically crying, while the dog is in the garbage can for the 6th time today just as my husband calls and says he is going to be home late from work, and I become a scary individual who snaps and yells and starts growing snakes out of my head! 

Now if Medusa continues to take over my body by the time my husband gets home and I continue to snap at him, he will undoubtedly bring me back to reality and remind me that he does not appreciate being spoken to like that.  And he is right.  Then he usually comes over, rubs my neck and gives me a peck on the cheek saying that he knows it isn’t always easy and I am doing a great job.  And I apologize and tell him he’s the best and then I am fine.  But I can’t promise it won’t happen again, and give me a few days and Medusa might return again.  Needless to say I can understand how Kate can lose it with eight kids and how unfortunately (like my husband unfortunately takes the brunt of mine) Jon is at the other end of the tantrum. 

I won’t give her right, just like I won’t give me any right to snap at my husband. I am just saying I can understand.  My husband handles it very well, brings me to reality and doesn’t allow himself to be treated poorly.  On TV, it seems that all these seasons Jon took it, never defending himself, never telling Kate how he does not appreciate her attitude with him, and never asking her to get help.  Add the media and the paparazzi, Kate becomes the monster, Jon becomes the innocent victim, and all of a sudden Jon gets up the nerve to do something about the situation.  Jon doesn’t ask Kate to get help, he doesn’t defend himself, he doesn’t seek out any help himself.  What he does do is he finds a younger girl and has an affair.  And not a discreet affair, but one that is publicized all over the country.  The real victims here are those eight beautiful kids.  And Kate is still the monster.

I cannot believe how many people I have heard who are defending Jon, saying that he dealt with Kate all these years so no wonder why he sought out a girlfriend.  So much for the sanctity of marriage.  So much for protecting the children.  Yes, fame and money has gotten to their heads, but bottom line is they are still a family.  And neither one of them is right. 

Kate recently said that the divorce rate for parents with multiples is higher than the general population.  True, but that doesn’t mean every family with multiples becomes a casualty of that fact.  My husband and I work on our relationship daily, and we will continue to do so for each other and our children.  As each of us has been divorced previously, we know it is not easy.  But we respect each other and hope that we remain as happy in our marriage as we have always been.

Jennifer
Mom to Juliana (7), Louis (9m) and Anthony (9m)
Expecting #4 in September!
www.nevaland.com

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